Admit it; you have some "happy-happy" picture of pregnancy in your mind. Everyone does. The glowing cheeks, the big smiles, all the love, and the ever-growing belly! However, this is far from the truth! In reality, pregnant women often go through a range of different emotions, even if the pregnancy was planned and both partners were actually happy about it. They have frequent mood swings, they worry about the baby, about the changes in their body, the future; in fact, there is hardly anything they don't worry about!
You may wonder, how that's possible, if you are apparently happy about the wee one growing inside you? Well, that is one of the biggest mysteries of life!
As pregnancy progresses women experience a lot of emotions in positive as well as negative ways. There are some who are very calm and rational and seem to accept their pregnancy and everything along with it, in a pleasant manner. This may come after all the emotional, physical, and hormonal changes that happen in the first 12 weeks. On the other hand, there are others who feel unhappy or unsure about the different changes in their body. The doctor says to remain happy during the pregnancy so that you can calm down all such feelings and the baby also feels happy inside you.
Pregnant women may experience times of unpredictable joy or tears, and a growing sense of vulnerability and insecurity about their relationship with their husbands. They tend to want their husbands around all the time. Some even fear that they may lose their partners and be left alone and this is manifested in the nightmares they sometimes have. These feelings are new and a little surprising for the women as well as their husbands. They want to experience special love and care at this time. Another cause for fear in the mind is the unknown future and thoughts about the impending labor and birth.
As the second trimester approaches, there may be an increase in the excitement of having a baby, as physical signs confirm the reality of the baby's presence, especially after the baby moves for the very first time. This excitement becomes stronger as the kicks and moves of the baby increase and the future starts looking bright and happy. Sometimes just getting through the first trimester safely assures the would-be-mother that all is well.
Women who have been through the disappointment of a miscarriage or infertility can feel more guilt or depression. They go through a range of emotions and feelings of guilt that is difficult for them to even express. It is especially important for them to receive all the love and care from their husbands and families.
But, relax, take a deep breath. Knowing about the feelings of a pregnant woman experience should not scare you, rather prepare you for the future. Having these feelings doesn't mean you want a baby any less. In fact, doctors worry about couples who don't feel any of this. So, this is perfectly normal and part of the wonderful pregnancy experience.
Debra Aspinall is an experienced journalist and the editor and leading writer for the Emma's Diary website, one of the UKs foremost pregnancy and baby websites. Debra writes on pregnancy related topics such as stages of pregnancy, trimesters of pregnancy , pregnancy weeks, sign of pregnancy and etc. She also writes on women's health and beauty issues and contributes travel articles to glossy magazines in London and the Home Counties.
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